Well i kinda was meaning the size, in consideration of lenght plus girth, conquerin the bend for me was starting the play with something slim and bendy… and then slowly size up on girth vise. Taking hard, over 3 inch wide dildo past the bend came for me in few years.
Well i can only say for my self, i have done this very long time and eventually have been able to go size up. I think the most important part is to learn how to relax, never just push anything in with power… now days i just clean my self out and after one or two minute relaxing, i can push this size balls deep on first.